BELIEVE

I find this word pretty interesting and it can change someone 360 degree . There are a few channels to develop this "believe" that acts as catalyst or to motivate someone towards DOING SOMETHING that they believe in . From the "Personal development course" , religion , and some sales group , they all hold the same principle which is "believe" .

It is rather good to have something to be believed on . For example for Christian , their strong belief that Jesus exists - and miracle will happen is catalyst for them to act towards achieving it . When they PRAY, they reinforce the belief which GENERATE ENERGY for them to work on it . When they achieve it , they will link it to the god - MIRACLE which creates a cycle of POSITIVE THINKING.

This is what i analyse after attending a "service"- christian gathering.

I realise in order to reinforce belief - SINGING does really help . it pours out the feeling when you sing something with conscious mind which further unleash the meaning behind every words sing. This is what happen in church as well as in motivator course.

Having a channel - church to keep the positive energy HIGH is important . Since im currently buddhist, there is not much channel to gather all the peoples with positve energy. I find that consistently RECHARGE oneself once a week is important to keep MOTIVATED.

I may be able to SELF-MOTIVATE myself with my understanding and own belief , but i find a proper channel is important. I may join the church gathering - to make friends and RECHARGE ~

Negotiation Skills

We are all in the learning curve of these type of soft skills , which cant be learnt from book , but through actual experience of really saying it out . while watching a tv series , one of the entrepreneur actually say , dont assume from what you "see" or "hear" , but use the "heart" n "mind" to think of it ...

I get to witness a negotiation of price set of the house between my dad and the seller . Previously , i have witnessed the negotiation done by my bro last week ago . By doing some analysis , there is some plus point and "must not " do things .

I am blogging this down , so as i will not forget what my dad actually did . I even observe the smile he put on the face at the right time . With some casual chat at beginning , then saying "without wasting your time , let's get to the topic" , shows his professionalism and prevent the bonding goes to long and out of topic .

Then the face straight away change to stern and confidence look . i can see the "authority" in my dad's voice that make the seller respect . my dad has done sufficient homework , and catch on the hot button of the seller wanting to get rid of the house quick .

With voicing some disadvantages of the voice , and plus point of another location , it actually pulls down the price . But by saying " without wanting to move here and there" to show the intention to stay in current house . Indirectly my dad voice out the price , through using comparison with other house which is fully-furnished rather than disagree with previous set price .

The best part is my dad lock in the time for the seller to confirm the price in the next day . with this he actually has no way to find other buyer . Awesome technique . Even the pause at the right time , to let the seller think .

I am still newbie to this and still have lot to learn ..

Stages in Life

Another month has passed since my last post . Everyday is a learning experience .

I have seen myself being less attached to the past . Even when memory flows , it is not remorse feeling . Of whatever things i cant do in the past , there will sure be chance for me to do in the future . With the power of "Believe", it is just matter of time .

Transition period between break-up to having new relationship , maybe difficult in the beginning . but believe me , human will eventually adapt to change in life .

Read another POWERFUL BOOK - SECRET . heard of it previously , till i read it , i can feel the secret behind thinking . What you think is what you get . it can helps in handling conflict , angerness , showing love to others , selflessness . when i see people talk negatively , i will think of the message from this book . Think negatively will just enhance the possibility of getting it . Reflect my past mistake i have done , most importantly to do better next time .

Flood myself with positive messages in front of my study table does help . one of it , become millionaire by 35 years old :p

These few days memories come back . been some time . there is no way to delete . i found this interesting phrase , "The past is good place to visit to remind you not to make same mistake but definitely not good place to stay" .

I have been trying to change towards "caring others more than me" . do i have achieve that stage ?

She has been with her ex just right after we breakup . she has definitely made up her mind who is the one . she mention she will be more comfortable with him . our characterictics are quite similar . but she and her ex - opposite . maybe opposite will attract .

but the truth out of all these , is her heart not belong to mine . while friends say that time will make it lapse . i can feel the different than the first day of it . but sometimes , will wonder what she is doing . it is better not to contact her , as it makes me wander where they go , what they do . it is better not to see her , as it makes me think of the beautiful face .

maybe one day , i may speak to her as a normal friend without having past stuffs bordering me . I dont want to dwell on the past , leave in dreamland , but before i find a new partner , i have to be sure never compare with my ex , as it is unfair to her . it may takes time before i find one . in the meantime , be a full-time student - full time study :)

SicK

haiz , hate food poisoning .it makes me so weak after vomit and diarrhoe . Must not drink water , or else will vomit more water out .. after eat some traditional medicine . vomit for the worst time , and time off to bed .

energyless when wake up . cancel all appointments for the day .

while being sick , i think of her . she sicks quite often . i remember one time after my class , i cant wait to find her , check out whether she is ok , and updates her with the study .

but sometimes , one mistake can kill all the good deeds . never repeat my mistake .

Girl remember whatever minute details ..

Take A Moment

Read Dale Carneige's book recently .

get caught with this interesting word , "reflection" which i may have taken for granted . take a few moment before you sleep , reflect what you have learnt from college, what mistakes you made , what improvement that you wish to make ..

today i make another mistake . I have know something that if said will cause conflict , but i still say it . don't know what word to describe me . something that does not please me , i will just bang them sometimes . but of course in politely manner . have to know that some people may not be please with it as well .

Stress Management

One actually only requires 2 hours of deep sleep
Laughter is the best medicine
Fengshui - having a house at T junction , face a risk of car banging in
Potential to kinetic energy .
Sleep on your right , you can sleep better .

There are what said by a knowledgable , Director of a company giving a talk at a Buddhist temple this lovely night . I will regret if dont go for this talk tonight . i have learn a great deal of thing from this wise man .

The best part is "learn to let go" . understand the mechanism of how it arises , will lessen the attachment towards it , and thus less disappointment . When you fight back , the spring will pull harder ( potential energy ) which one day will hit back on you . When having able to let go unhappiness , then you will feel with happiness again .

Imagine of a river , flow down from hilltop freely . suddenly it meets a mountain . do it grumble and complain the existence of the mountain . but rather , let it be . one day , the river level rises to a level higher than the mountain, pops ! it flow over it . there forms the waterfall ~
it shows how much obstacles we will face in life . but having to learn from every challenges , we will improve.

The law of miracle . you believe after a great fall , you consult advice from the wise one . then slowly , you are able to overcome it . but actually the one consult you only able to lead you and passify your mind . what really overcome it , is your mind .

Imagine the light bulb is our body , then the electricity is our mind . we consistently use our mind to control our body ( emotion ) . we can definitely able to control it well with positive thinking . it is our choice to do so .

Patience , tolerance , understanding - is what the Buddhist always emphasize . Understand there is nothing permanent in this world . manage changes well . then it will free our mind from disappointment .

Earth , Sky ( condition ) , effort . if we are given opportunity , but we do go kick our butt and work towards it . we cant capitalise the opportunity . a good story from him , the fortuneteller tell a man that at the age of 40 , the sky will opens and gold will drop to him . All to him . then at his 40th birthday , it really does , but the gold falls in front of his house . then he thinks that the gold will come to him . but since it drops in front of his house , it belongs to the public , so everybody take it . his lack of initiative to go towards the gold , makes him lose the opportunity .

Focus on present moment , never lament over the past , or speculate the future . Present moment is where you can control , so that the future is in your hand .

when you are able to sleep well , you will able to think well and decide well . you will be prosperous . sleep on your right , facing the east . with your head at south . this is in accordance to flow of magnetic energy ( feng shui ) . if you sleep less than 8 hours , in the morning you grumble not sleep sufficiently . then whole day , you will feel lack of energy as actually , it is the mind who control our energy level .

Time

This semester passes so fast . without me realising it is April already . which is just 2 more months from final exam .

Cant afford to lose concentration while in class . Gym eats up a lot time , min 2 hours per session . So now i limit it to 3 days per week . Plan to meet some old friends but now need to postpone till June .

More effort has to be put on understanding rather than memorising . everytime go for P2 exam , it shows how much lack of understanding of mine / insufficient memorising as well .

Have been thinking too much for the past few months . Some happy moment seems like happening yesterday .but is it worth my time to think of future . i know i just cant change the fact , lying to myself will do me no good . face reality is the way out. past is history . focus on current moment . Patience is virtue , timing is crucial . i have to train my patience . Previously , have been looking at short term view , now i have to extend my view ,broader and wider towards the long term . One serious fall , makes me awake .

is it possible to embrace changes ? nothing is impossible , if commitment is put into it . like how the muscles function . no way it can change to big automatically . consistent effort put into it will bear fruit one day .

Dream

I have dream of her this morning .

But in the dream , i am no longer her boyfriend . just a friend maybe . in the university yesterday , we do chat like last time . actually the reason for her not to be so close with me after break up is not to give me false hope . I can say she is meticulous person who consider every single thing before she reacts .

This month alone , i have met 4 different cases of couple breaking up . the fastest i saw of breaking up - after 1 week of annoucement of being couple . the other couple , i listen to radio have been together for 7 years , also break up . It's all faith actually .



here is an issue , why do others can recover and find a better one , but why cant we ? nobody can help us in getting control ourself but ourself . my dad yesterday mention another important life changing quote - " if others can do so , we can do BETTER " rather than give up on yourself .

just keep youself as busy as possible . it is normal to have her flow through your mind and you may feel your lifestyle will slightly change . just embrace the change ! and slowly it is automatically adapted without you realising . since you are given golden opportunity to study overseas , don't waste parent's hard earned money . the environment is best to study . set your ultimate aim to study first.

dedicated to- wilson .

Something

It seems a hole has been puncture on my heart . there is no way that it will regenerate . it will be impossible to forget someone that you greatly in love .

but whenever memories flow , just have to keep tell myself of the reality . this time , it is not sadness like the day after i know about it . maybe i have adapt to it .

it seems i forget the way i communicate with her last time . it is no more work now . there is no way that we will able to joke like last time .

somehow , it is better not to force thing now .. but actually , nothing can be changed .

Positive Thinking

Recently i have read a great book on "The Power of Positive Thinking and The Amazing Results of Positive Thinking " . A really great book which inspires me on a lot of things .

There is two types of people . One who whines over the problems that arise , and saying negative talk . The other , is the one who accepts the problem as it is , and take it as a challenge . We have consistently incorporate positive talk to our subconscious mind to make our mind ready for the challenge .

Some of useful positive affirmation -" I can do all things through Christ which Strengthen me " .
The greatest secret for elminating the inferiority mindset ( self-doubt on capability ) is to fill your mind with overflowing with "faith" which is towards the "God". Do not built up obstacles in your imagination . Depreciate every so-called obstacles , minimize them . Doubt closes the power flow , Faith opens it .



Attitudes are more important than facts . A optimistic thought can overcome whatever difficult "fact" . There occurs time where past memories flow back to my mind sub-consciously . It is the fact that can't be avoided but to face it with positive attitude . With overflowing mind with positive affirmation , i feel myself easier to let go of the past . Life is short , i will not spend most of my time worrying of the past , but to grasp whatever opportunity in the future .

One can be happy , if they make up their minds to be . Children are more expert in happiness than adults . Today i met my neighbour's kid , around 5 years old .. so cute ! he happiness greeted me when i walked by . While i washed my shoe , he even sing song to me ! there isn't any worry like adult do . The way to happiness : keep your heart free from hate , your mind from worry .



"Live simply , expect little , give much .Forget self , think of others " may really helps in happiness . I have previously expect too much in terms of study , my capability , love and others . Do not expect too much from others , as something cant be controlled by us .

Time

It seems i have very little time for what i need to be done in a day . After the incident , i get the chance to actually call back my old friends for a chat , meet lot of new friends , and actually catch up on time lost previously .

there are a lot of things outstanding for me to follow-up. i get more chance to communicate with my best friends and get to know their life. i get the chance to sit in MPH , reading the whole book with no distraction in a single hour . I get more chance to spend time with my family and relatives .

Although the time spent may not be as happy as the time spent previously with someone you love , looking in another perspective may actually help . Having to actually let go , is the solution for it . It is "ME" who controls the happiness . it does not requires other people to make me happy .

I have gradually used to being single again . There may be instances where im being desperate to look for a partner (Rebound relationship). But , having to know the pain of the ending of relationship , ill have to be really sure before holding another people's hand , of not hurting other and ourself .

End

I know something cant be said . indirectly i know the meaning , but getting reaffirmation actually get my heart dead for second chance . "Stop doing what isn't working so you can start doing what works " . Dont wish to waste any of my time on something cant be achieved . Ie , my dad gives up something he holds on for 11 years with no regret , as he has made the most out of it .

This time , i no more feel sad or disappointed like last time i do . i have a neutral kind of mindset . Maybe i have accepted the fact towards it , or maybe i have let go and without me realising already get used to my current lifestyle .

After the first time i experience great failure in my life , i went to temple , and pray . then by coincidence , i get a book on "Four Noble Truth " - the great message - "something arises will cease" . This maybe the message the God wants to deliver the message to me . Nobody can help us in getting control over our emotion once again , but ourself .

There are other people who experience the same failure like i do , and they manage to move on with no regrets , and even may find a better life out of it . Some people , experiences even worst scenario than i do , like my friend who is just 20 years old , and have cancer . i realise life is short . Taking control of our life and maximise every minute of it with happiness and no regrets will cherish our life .

Relieve

After telling what is in my mind , i feel relieve . Hope by telling all i wanted to say before too late , then no regret in future . as i have done all I can .

Realise my concentration in class weaken recently . always fall asleep in class . if this continues , it sure impact on my final module papers . need to chase back the time i lost previously .

This will be the place where i share most of non-senstive issues . lose a great friend temporarily .. but guess cant share so much like last time with this friend .

Having simple life , gives myself a break to see things clearly .. being too aggressive and impatience towards achieving something , may be detrimental . But it will not stop me from chasing my dream and achievable aims ..

Question mark

A lot of question mark arises in my head . but somehow , something cant be control . if it belongs to you , it will come . being overly aggressive will make matter worse . if it does not belong to us , learn to let go , and pursue for something else . which may be awaiting you somewhere .

it is not good to compare with each other . but it is good benchmarking to improve ourself . some people called this as "kiasu" - never want to lose to others . if we somehow compare without feeling bad about ourself but instead improve ourself , then it is worth benchmarking . it is not good to compare other with another person . nobody like to be compared and evaluated by other people .

some people say naughty baby , will be smarter in future . since they consistently use their brain to find naughty things to do , it improves their analytical capability and intelligence . same applies to our age , only when we face problem , we will use "more" of our brain , to solve it . rather than depending on others to find solution, think for it ourself will make us feel even greater when at the end the problem is solved in our hand . then when same problem arises , it will not be an issue . it is applied in "exam" where we are being thrown with multiple problems to solve - that Practice makes perfect .

Hands Off

Getting to make wise decision when to hands on and hands off will definitely make the difference . if dealing with someone intelligent , talented , smart , experience , it is better to be hands off approach . actually nobody like to being control . we have to trust them .

same to my dad's business . he cant be hands on every single operation issues . he has to learn let go and believe the subordinate can do it .

i need to pay heavy price to learn this . initially , you may not be comfortable for it , but after think again in the other people's perceptive , it makes sense .

"Wound"

For some times , past memories keep mingling in my mind . but when i look where am I now , i just have to face the reality . looking back does not bring any good . maybe should focus on study first .

want to say it out , but it will do more harm than good . just slowly let the time dissolves it . i can say i am genuine to this , but somehow , it is not under my control .. rather than thinking when the wound will heal , just do what i can be done . thinking of something uncertain just lead us to nowhere . it is something similar to "sleep" . if you keep thinking how to sleep , you cant sleep till the next morning . but if let go , you will eventually sleep without you realising that the "wound" has healed itself .

People has to get up fast after falling down . crying due to the pain will only weaken us . we should be thankful for the chance to fall down . if we dont experience the pain , we dont learn that fast . nobody will dare to say never fall down "physically and mentally" . but what all matters is how fast we regain ourself to keep moving forward . will also thank for giving me the chance to ride the bicycle for only this short span of time .



if we are confident , there is nothing that cant be achieved . Confidence may be just the starting point , then it is all blend with other elements which result in tasteful juice .

Just realise how fast time passed . since September last year till now . between this period , lot lot of things happened . sometimes sounds so miracle to me , exciting , hopeful and to being realistic at the end . But this experience will not stop me from moving forward , but even add extra oil to speed forward .

In whatever you do , better to strategies for long term and happy conclusion . for example , in badminton , you can feel happy for leading in the game . The taken for granted attitude will result in total failure at the end of game . the seriousness and undisturbed emotion has to be maintained , but of course has to enjoy the "game" .



have a down moment for a moment , but after sharing with my best friends , and hearing from them , it gets better . It is at the end , the thinking all rests on myself . no more dependent on other people to get over a problem . LOVE MENON CLASS . besides learning p2 , we get to learn the professional attitude from her . today best quotation - be a leader , dont be follower ! really what my dad being doing . his idea all fresh from his head . do you think the idea falls from sky , he really think day and night for it ..

this show , there is NO EASY WAY OUT IN ANYTHING WE DO ... being requested to do insurance agent . true that can earn a big buck of commission and also networking . but after weighing the pros n cons , it is better to focus on my study . with looking at my current weight of syllabus , lot of efforts need to be put in ... with the drop in marks in last semester , means something need to be done before it deteriorates further .

there is one uncle , who is very knowledgable teach me something important . looking at negative comment towards us as constructive criticism . rather than being rebellious towards the criticism , maybe you can think over what improvement can be done . so that people has no more chance to criticise us , as there is NO MORE THINGS TO CRITICISE . of course , no one is perfect . we have to continuous improve ourself .

every words we said , really matter so much . before saying anything out , careful of the wording which may defame , hurt , cause conflict , and others . but some much restriction , will it makes us less prone to talking . when we get used to talking good , it will eventually be a habit . im consistently improve my communication skill to suit different people , place and time .

For so much i have said , it is all require great effort of THINKING of our own action .rather than changing others , change ourself will be easy way out . only if we have the commitment to change . it wont happen overnight , but with determination , i believe it is possible .

every experience i gain yesterday , will make me a better man in future ONLY IF i LEARN from my experience . Preventing is really better remedy than curing . but does preventing matters , if our attitude is correct .

i have really learn a lot from you . may God bless you , and be always happy .