BELIEVE

I find this word pretty interesting and it can change someone 360 degree . There are a few channels to develop this "believe" that acts as catalyst or to motivate someone towards DOING SOMETHING that they believe in . From the "Personal development course" , religion , and some sales group , they all hold the same principle which is "believe" .

It is rather good to have something to be believed on . For example for Christian , their strong belief that Jesus exists - and miracle will happen is catalyst for them to act towards achieving it . When they PRAY, they reinforce the belief which GENERATE ENERGY for them to work on it . When they achieve it , they will link it to the god - MIRACLE which creates a cycle of POSITIVE THINKING.

This is what i analyse after attending a "service"- christian gathering.

I realise in order to reinforce belief - SINGING does really help . it pours out the feeling when you sing something with conscious mind which further unleash the meaning behind every words sing. This is what happen in church as well as in motivator course.

Having a channel - church to keep the positive energy HIGH is important . Since im currently buddhist, there is not much channel to gather all the peoples with positve energy. I find that consistently RECHARGE oneself once a week is important to keep MOTIVATED.

I may be able to SELF-MOTIVATE myself with my understanding and own belief , but i find a proper channel is important. I may join the church gathering - to make friends and RECHARGE ~

Negotiation Skills

We are all in the learning curve of these type of soft skills , which cant be learnt from book , but through actual experience of really saying it out . while watching a tv series , one of the entrepreneur actually say , dont assume from what you "see" or "hear" , but use the "heart" n "mind" to think of it ...

I get to witness a negotiation of price set of the house between my dad and the seller . Previously , i have witnessed the negotiation done by my bro last week ago . By doing some analysis , there is some plus point and "must not " do things .

I am blogging this down , so as i will not forget what my dad actually did . I even observe the smile he put on the face at the right time . With some casual chat at beginning , then saying "without wasting your time , let's get to the topic" , shows his professionalism and prevent the bonding goes to long and out of topic .

Then the face straight away change to stern and confidence look . i can see the "authority" in my dad's voice that make the seller respect . my dad has done sufficient homework , and catch on the hot button of the seller wanting to get rid of the house quick .

With voicing some disadvantages of the voice , and plus point of another location , it actually pulls down the price . But by saying " without wanting to move here and there" to show the intention to stay in current house . Indirectly my dad voice out the price , through using comparison with other house which is fully-furnished rather than disagree with previous set price .

The best part is my dad lock in the time for the seller to confirm the price in the next day . with this he actually has no way to find other buyer . Awesome technique . Even the pause at the right time , to let the seller think .

I am still newbie to this and still have lot to learn ..

Stages in Life

Another month has passed since my last post . Everyday is a learning experience .

I have seen myself being less attached to the past . Even when memory flows , it is not remorse feeling . Of whatever things i cant do in the past , there will sure be chance for me to do in the future . With the power of "Believe", it is just matter of time .

Transition period between break-up to having new relationship , maybe difficult in the beginning . but believe me , human will eventually adapt to change in life .

Read another POWERFUL BOOK - SECRET . heard of it previously , till i read it , i can feel the secret behind thinking . What you think is what you get . it can helps in handling conflict , angerness , showing love to others , selflessness . when i see people talk negatively , i will think of the message from this book . Think negatively will just enhance the possibility of getting it . Reflect my past mistake i have done , most importantly to do better next time .

Flood myself with positive messages in front of my study table does help . one of it , become millionaire by 35 years old :p

These few days memories come back . been some time . there is no way to delete . i found this interesting phrase , "The past is good place to visit to remind you not to make same mistake but definitely not good place to stay" .

I have been trying to change towards "caring others more than me" . do i have achieve that stage ?

She has been with her ex just right after we breakup . she has definitely made up her mind who is the one . she mention she will be more comfortable with him . our characterictics are quite similar . but she and her ex - opposite . maybe opposite will attract .

but the truth out of all these , is her heart not belong to mine . while friends say that time will make it lapse . i can feel the different than the first day of it . but sometimes , will wonder what she is doing . it is better not to contact her , as it makes me wander where they go , what they do . it is better not to see her , as it makes me think of the beautiful face .

maybe one day , i may speak to her as a normal friend without having past stuffs bordering me . I dont want to dwell on the past , leave in dreamland , but before i find a new partner , i have to be sure never compare with my ex , as it is unfair to her . it may takes time before i find one . in the meantime , be a full-time student - full time study :)

SicK

haiz , hate food poisoning .it makes me so weak after vomit and diarrhoe . Must not drink water , or else will vomit more water out .. after eat some traditional medicine . vomit for the worst time , and time off to bed .

energyless when wake up . cancel all appointments for the day .

while being sick , i think of her . she sicks quite often . i remember one time after my class , i cant wait to find her , check out whether she is ok , and updates her with the study .

but sometimes , one mistake can kill all the good deeds . never repeat my mistake .

Girl remember whatever minute details ..

Take A Moment

Read Dale Carneige's book recently .

get caught with this interesting word , "reflection" which i may have taken for granted . take a few moment before you sleep , reflect what you have learnt from college, what mistakes you made , what improvement that you wish to make ..

today i make another mistake . I have know something that if said will cause conflict , but i still say it . don't know what word to describe me . something that does not please me , i will just bang them sometimes . but of course in politely manner . have to know that some people may not be please with it as well .

Stress Management

One actually only requires 2 hours of deep sleep
Laughter is the best medicine
Fengshui - having a house at T junction , face a risk of car banging in
Potential to kinetic energy .
Sleep on your right , you can sleep better .

There are what said by a knowledgable , Director of a company giving a talk at a Buddhist temple this lovely night . I will regret if dont go for this talk tonight . i have learn a great deal of thing from this wise man .

The best part is "learn to let go" . understand the mechanism of how it arises , will lessen the attachment towards it , and thus less disappointment . When you fight back , the spring will pull harder ( potential energy ) which one day will hit back on you . When having able to let go unhappiness , then you will feel with happiness again .

Imagine of a river , flow down from hilltop freely . suddenly it meets a mountain . do it grumble and complain the existence of the mountain . but rather , let it be . one day , the river level rises to a level higher than the mountain, pops ! it flow over it . there forms the waterfall ~
it shows how much obstacles we will face in life . but having to learn from every challenges , we will improve.

The law of miracle . you believe after a great fall , you consult advice from the wise one . then slowly , you are able to overcome it . but actually the one consult you only able to lead you and passify your mind . what really overcome it , is your mind .

Imagine the light bulb is our body , then the electricity is our mind . we consistently use our mind to control our body ( emotion ) . we can definitely able to control it well with positive thinking . it is our choice to do so .

Patience , tolerance , understanding - is what the Buddhist always emphasize . Understand there is nothing permanent in this world . manage changes well . then it will free our mind from disappointment .

Earth , Sky ( condition ) , effort . if we are given opportunity , but we do go kick our butt and work towards it . we cant capitalise the opportunity . a good story from him , the fortuneteller tell a man that at the age of 40 , the sky will opens and gold will drop to him . All to him . then at his 40th birthday , it really does , but the gold falls in front of his house . then he thinks that the gold will come to him . but since it drops in front of his house , it belongs to the public , so everybody take it . his lack of initiative to go towards the gold , makes him lose the opportunity .

Focus on present moment , never lament over the past , or speculate the future . Present moment is where you can control , so that the future is in your hand .

when you are able to sleep well , you will able to think well and decide well . you will be prosperous . sleep on your right , facing the east . with your head at south . this is in accordance to flow of magnetic energy ( feng shui ) . if you sleep less than 8 hours , in the morning you grumble not sleep sufficiently . then whole day , you will feel lack of energy as actually , it is the mind who control our energy level .